This week here in the United States has been tumultuous. The massive hurricane in Texas and now the largest Hurricane ever in history headed straight for Florida and in particular to Miami, a place I hold dear to my heart.
My mother lived in the beautiful Aventura, Miami for over 20 years up until last year when she decided to move to New Jersey to be close to her children and grandchildren.
This was a bitter sweet move for me.
While I longed to have my mom close by to be able to see her on a whim, visiting her in Miami was a deeply healing ritual that healed my soul every time I went. I will never be able to put into words the relief I felt when arriving there, my mom picking us up in her convertible, and driving us back to her gorgeous development.
Her high rise apartment had views that were stunning of South Beach plus she was surrounded by water. I would sit on her balcony, feel the breeze and be in absolute heaven. Talk about engaging the parasympathetic nervous system! The healing I felt there was not just because my nervous system relaxed, and nature set in, but my mother always took special care of me there. It was a magical place.
The year before she moved here, I actually considered moving there.
After another glorious visit, I thought about how short life really is, and how I wanted to spend my time in the sun, with palm trees, and beauty in an international city that offered all the glam of NY with all the beauty and luxury of a resort. I wanted a change.
But I couldn’t move.
I couldn’t follow my instincts or my heart and that hurt. My partner has a farm in NJ that he would never leave, and I would never consider breaking up our family just because I felt like moving to Florida. So I stayed…here in NJ…and a little piece of me mourned for the life I dreamed of.
Instead, I did what I always do when I’m feeling bad and that was count my blessings and focus on something productive, and for me that is clearing out old “stuff”.
When I thought about the dream of moving, I started to think about what I would actually take with me. When I imagined myself in a light filled apartment in sunny Florida, I imagined a spacious clutter free environment that was healing and bright, just like my moms apartment. In taking my own advice that I often give my clients, I asked myself how can I make my current home feel more like the one I dreamed of. The answer was to clear out “stuff”, and lots of it.
Clearing clutter is something I do when I am either procrastinating or when I need new energy and I definitely needed some new energy to help me process the loss of my little dream. This is no small feat for any parent with kids and all the clutter and toys that come with having children. Plus I have a design studio, too many clothes, and a garage filled with a collection of vintage treasures that I was saving for a store I never opened. (If you have followed me for a while, you know that I wanted to open a vintage re-creation gift shop store at my hubby’s farm)
Clearing out “stuff” helps you CLEAR energy, and clearing energy is a foundational layer in healing, that I talk about in my foundational guide for healing SVT naturally called The Heal SVT Naturally Approach, A New Way to Empower Yourself Through Your Journey of Healing
So how does this relate to the hurricanes? Well, watching TV and seeing all the loss, has helped me to realize that our “stuff” can be the cause of tremendous distress in our lives.
Our stuff can make us feel cluttered, or exhausted, or fearful or overwhelmed. When we loose our stuff we can feel lost and devastated. Houses under water, lost stuff, too much stuff…no matter how you think of it, OUR STUFF, is holding massive energy in our lives.
Maybe in honor of all the loss this week, we can all get inspired to clear some of our stuff, pass it on to those who need it and free ourselves up for the healing space that comes with open-ness, light ness and clear space.
- How can you make your own home feel like your dream home?
- How can you detach from your stuff, especially if it is the cause of distress?
- How can you create space for your energy to feel as clear and healed as possible?
- Is there anyone who needs your stuff way more than you do?
- How can you find a family that needs things so you can feel connected and inspired to give things away to them?
- What would you do with clear, clean open space?
No doubt clutter has been a source of distress in my life. Clearing it out, and creating a home that I love helps you to live a piece of the life that you dream about. Especially if you feel like you are compromising right now for reasons such as family or career.
Keep dreaming, travel to places to you, and really decide what is worth holding on to and what you can let go of!
Your SVT Coach
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