Lots of posts yesterday in the FB group from people who felt alone and frustrated with their SVT. Comments about how they were at holiday gatherings and not able to partake in what their peers or family were eating…things like bread and cheese or wine.
As a life coach, I spend 3 days a week in my office working with incredible people who come to me to help them change their life and learn new skills. People who are ready to pay me to come sit on my couch and do the very hard work of looking in the mirror. It’s a brave path and one that not many are ready for.
Changing from a place of victimhood to a place of empowerment is no small feat. I didn’t know that I was a victim until my boyfriend told me. I was around 25 years old. He was a cool producer from Hollywood taking me to movie premiers, traveling, reading scripts and going to raw restaurants. Hollywood was ahead of NYC in many ways, people seemed seriously serious about their health. I learned how to make smoothies, what green power to use, how to look in the mirror and take responsibility for my choices, and how to be cool at a dinner party with Jim Carey. I learned how to get on the court and play instead of sitting on the sidelines complaining about my life. My boyfriend was harsh and taught with a bat, and while his message was needed and instrumental in my growth, I didn’t like his method of teaching (although it did work). We parted as friends. Today, I have him to thank for the fact that I have xray vision now when I hear people (or myself) talk like a victim. I know now exactly how I used to sound to him, and it’s not pretty.
Not being allowed to eat bread and cheese isn’t a punishment. Its ‘not something to feel sad about. They are foods from the SADD diet and they are killing us slowly. If you are avoiding them, you are lucky. If your friends or family don’t have SVT, they probably have something else. Everyone has something. If not today, then tomorrow. You would be doing them a service by serving them something else more healthy.
Learning how to like and serve other foods that don’t slowly cause diabetes, and autoimmune diseases is a good thing. How about Guacamole and non gmo corn chips, or delicious hummus and rice crackers, or lentil chips, or even potato chips if you want to eat something unhealthy. Maybe learning how to bake delicious corn bread, or gluten free bread made with oats and rice flour. How about serving veggies with one really incredible dip made from tahini and honey. How about serving bite size appetizers that you learn to make homemade or order on line or veggie burgers and a brown rice pasta option. You can even, spend time scouring the internet for the endless new wave delicious GF recipes that are out there or try taking Julie Montagu course that I posted last month that only cost 39.00 and teaches you incredible amazing ways to learn how to cook in a new cool healthy superfoods.
There is a big difference in paying someone to be your life coach vs. not paying to be your life coach. When people pay they are usually ready to hear the hard stuff. So if it feels hard to hear this, I know, because I have been where you are today.
If there is ONE gift I can give today, it is the message that you CAN go from being a VICTIM to feeling empowered and sometimes the only way to do so, is for someone to tell you when you are being a victim and help open you up to how you sound.
So take today, the last day of 2015, to cry about things. Be upset that you cant have bread, and that you have to take better care of yourself, and that your heart is fluttering and constantly feels like an SVT is going to happen. Feel as sorry for yourself as you need to for all day. Cry it out, punch a pillow, complain as hard as you want.
Tomorrow, I ask you to get over it. Tomorrow I ask you to thank your SVT for being so relentless in its mission to get your attention. Tomorrow I ask you to look in the mirror and be really honest with yourself about what you are eating or doing that could be contributing to your ill-health. Tomorrow start to search all the stores near you for delicious alternatives to the SADD diet. If you live in the US, Marshalls has the BEST assortment of chips, puffs, and crackers that I have seen, better than whole foods and more affordable. GF options are everywhere, not like 20 years ago when people really suffered with options.
Tomorrow I ask you to welcome 2016 as an EMPOWERED person who is happy that they are learning new ways to elevate their health. Tomorrow, I ask you to look at your energy and see if you are being a victim in other areas of your life and not just around food and SVT. The sooner you learn how to take responsibility for your health the sooner you can turn it around.
Oh, and one final note. If you are like me wasting years and money on bloodwork that continually offers very little direction, maybe it’s time to consider a stool sample instead. Stool samples give you the best information that you could ever ask for. They give you crystal clear direction on what foods to eat and what to avoid. They are specific to you. The best $800.00 investment of my life. And they have options that are half that price. 90% of the time blood work is rather pointless when looking for clues into your SVT. Your potassium will only be low the day of an episode, traditional Dr.’s don’t usually test for the things that would matter anyway.
Is 2016 your year to eat guacamole and get a stool sample? I hope so, because the world needs you, your family needs you, and you need you. There is NO one on earth who can take better care of you than you. You can do it, and when you do, you will begin to LOVE your LIFE again, or maybe even for the first time!
Lots of Love, Healing and Gratitude to you all.
p.s. If you want to work with me, I’m offering a new years special rate. $255.00 for 3 sessions and I will analyze your food and lifestyle tracker. Email me if interested. xox